Mittwoch, 13. August 2014

Chronos, big flats and turquoise lakes or how to become ruler of time

Hi folks!:)

First of all, I'd like you to do something: Just take one little moment, sit back, take a deep breath in, let it out and close your eyes. Now ask yourself the question how is your feeling of time and space at the moment? Is time running away from you? Is it stuck, not willing to get over? Is the place you are now wide and spacious or small and stuffed? How are you feeling in this situation?

Personally, I just made once more the discovery how different the same time is experienced by two people. How different the feeling of space in the same room is at different times. Although time is a unite measure applied by everybody without exception, it nevertheless seems to be flowing at a different speed for all of us. An hour can feel like a week if you are waiting for your friends to arrive at the meeting point in order to begin an awesome trip together. A week can feel like an hour if you spend it with good people at a good place and you really don't wan't to go home. A 3 1/2 room flat can appear terribly small if you are longing to go to the above mentioned trip, but then again it can feel tremendously big and spacious after one week as four and then returning while your mum is on a business trip (which means you have the whole flat for yourself - yay!!..right?). And then again in this empty flat one day passes by, seeming short as the blink of an eye and never ending at the same time.

It's not hard to believe that the ancient Greeks once thought that there was a god named Chronos, who ruled over time and life time. We may not always be able to influence how fast time passes by, but it is we who decide wether we consider our time as "ripped away from us", "cruelly slow ", or "lived/used to the fullest".

If time appears to be to fast, try to step back and appreciate the small details as for example the marvelous smile of your best friend sitting by your side at a turquoise colored mountain lake after you just took a bath (despite cloudy weather and only 15 degrees water temperature) , the sound of everybody's laughter after you brought the full (and pretty heavy) equipment to hold a perfect barbecue with you and realize after a long hike that you are not allowed to make a fire (ooh well, it was a good work out) and the smell of bonfire smoke inside of your own house (we went home in order to hold our BBQ, but it suddenly started to rain, so we used the old fireplace inside the 400 years old house to barbecue our meat at last!). If you do this the time may not appear slower, but fuller.

If time is racing because you're stressed, try to look at everything with a bigger distance to gain back the overview without loosing the eye for important details. By gaining distance you are able to find once more what really has priority and what only seems to be important but could wait a little longer.

And finally, if time passes too slowly, try to entertain yourself to the fullest while waiting for it to get over. If school is boring, try to use that time to get better at something (gaining useless knowledge, improving your conversation and social skills together with your fellow sufferer to your left/right , getting better in art by drawing sketches in and on your notebook, improving time management and multi tasking skills by doing home work during lessons - there are tons of reasonable activities). If that is not possible, you just need to remind yourself that the whole world is just one big stage and that you are always director and actor rolled into one. Once you do that you'll find the biggest entertainment in the most boring meeting at your work place (Wow, what's with this expression?! Did my boss always have a nervous twitch when talking enraged? By listening closely, John, that smoothy from team one lisp a bit, doesn't he? Wow, actually I never noticed how beautiful the view from this meeting room is..). Of course no one needs to know of your "discoveries", in most of the cases the conversations inside of my head with myself are amusing enough. A good alternative would be to engage yourself into daydreaming (if affordable), as you'll get better and better and experience more improved daydreams and adventures by practicing it.

Of course it would still be the best to just always live in the moment as Zen, Buddha and who knows who else are preaching, but until I have have the answer on how to do that, this is how I try to be ruler of my time and gaining the most out of it. If you know anything better, by any means, please share it in the comments below!;)

Best regards,

your cheeky devil

Freitag, 1. August 2014

A little list of countermeasures against missing something/ homesickness

Hey there, how was your week?

As promised, this time the follow up post is sooner than usual (well, rather exceptionally there doesn't lie a gab of several months between them for once!^^''). Well this time I'm going to talk about a topic that had been alien to me up to the time when I came back from Japan: Homesickness. "... Wait, what? She's not even gone to London yet and she already talks about being homesick while still being AT HOME?!", some of you might think right now. Well, be it preventive or be it just to remind myself (and you guys of course) of what to do against it, yes, I want to write about it.

I know it might sound stupid, and seriously I'm so mad at me right now, but recently I started to feel homesick again...for JAPAN! Just a few weeks before I'll be gone to London for at least one year..I mean seriously?! This is like the most horrible timing possible, since I don't plan to be homesick over there..neither for Switzerland (Well this most likely isn't going to happen anyway) NOR Japan. Therefore I put together a few things that help me (and hopefully may help you too) if the place (or person) of your heart is farer away than you can reach right now:

1) Listen to music: I am a person who connects everything with music. Memories, special days, places and persons. If I start to miss my friends of another country, I listen to the music they like, they showed to me or the music that make me think of them. I even have a book were my friends can write music that is important to them into. It definitely helps, you'll feel connected with them.

2) The power of the mind: If I feel lonely it always proofs helpful to assort my thoughts. The whole world seems so much smaller and your beloved ones nearer if you make yourself clear that we all are under the same sky, see the same stars and live under the same sun. You can daydream yourself to the place of your choice, imaging what you would be doing right now and with whom, trying to remember what the atmosphere of that place is like, what particular smells and noises you were surrounded with and in general trying to remember your memories as vivid as possible. With the time you'll get really good at it (I practiced daydreaming a lot in school up to the point I wasn't sure if my being in school wasn't the daydream rather than my striving through Osaka's shopping miles and strolling through the park of America town). Doing this can be extremely relieving; but warning: Even if temporary helpful it could cause your homesickness to get even worse afterwards.. An alternative option would be to make plans. Inform yourself and think about the best possibilities and what you need to do in order to go/return to that certain place. planning makes you optimistic and brings a change of thought, and on top of that the good thing about plans compared to day dreams is that plans eventually will come true (if they are realistic enough, otherwise they aren't plans anymore but daydreams!;))

3) Friends and family / communication: Even if they aren't with you right now, we are luckily born into the age of internet, Facebook, Whatsapp, Skype, emails and whatsoever. So you should just talk with them about you being homesick - it really helps. Maybe you can make some sort of ritual as I did with one of my friends: Every time we saw the full moon we would think of each other, so if you looked upon the moon you knew that the other person somewhere else in the world would look at it and think of you as well, which also gives you the strong feeling of connection and closeness regardless to the distance between you. Also talk with your host family and local friends about it, because they will understand you better and probably can help you (even if you don't think so - you'll be surprised!). So in short: Just COMMUNICATE and TALK with the persons around you. Tell them about your feelings, because that will definitely create closeness and trust, which will help you feeling more comfortable and at home.

4) Change: If you're everyday in the same negative spiral, in the same surrounding doing the same things, it's really hard to change your feelings for the better. Therefore: Go out for a walk, undertake something with friends, go on a short trip somewhere and just surround yourself with positive energy and people that make you feel comfortable, positive and cheerful. Laughing is the best medicine against a lots of things, so if you're having fun with good people you'll most likely start to feel better as well.

5) Make the best out of it: I know that sounds lame, but it really depends on you in the end wether you are willing to see the glass half filled or empty. Of course your situation most likely is awful if you're being homesick, but if you let your thoughts circle around nothing but your agony, then it will only get worse. So you really should try to just bear with it and take a step back to view at your situation from the outside: What can I do to make my situation better? What blessings do I have around myself that I maybe not realize or appreciate enough (there may be a lot of persons trying to reach you - if you open up a bit and give them a chance to get close to you, you'll be surprised and maybe even feel more at home)?What are the good points of my situation? How can I maximize them? By questioning yourself in this manner you will start to find the positive things even in the biggest mess, which make problems a lot easier to deal with.

I hope that you'll find one or two useful tips amongst the things I listed above and say goodbye for now(Truth is I just returned from an awesome trip with some of my closest friends and therefore am terribly tired but couldn't sleep, therefore I'll write about the trip in my next post).

Take care of yourself,

your cheeky devil